Online Dating Safety Tips

Online dating is as safe, and in some ways safer than meeting people offline. Online dating services protect your anonymity at all times (your real name, contact details, and so on) and provide tools to block and report bad apples, as well as online dating safety tips like these. The rest is up to you. If there’s any danger at all, it’s that you feel too safe and forget to use your common sense. So, here are some reminders to help keep your online dating experiences safe and enjoyable.

Remain anonymous:

Never, ever include your real name, address or contact details in your profile or personal ad, or communications with other members. Remember, there’s absolutely no reason why anyone would need these details. Online dating services provide plenty of options for communicating, safely and anonymously.

Be wary of anyone who presses for information:

At online dating sites the focus is on personalities, interests, values and so on – the type of information that helps you determine if someone’s “the one.” Specific details, like your exact address, or place of work or study aren’t relevant and you should be immediately suspicious of anyone who pushes for this type of information.

Keep it vague:

Telling someone that you workout out at the gym every night is fine. Telling them at which gym, at what times, and that you’re afraid of the dark alley behind it is not!

Don’t paint a picture:

Remember, some people are very good at putting two and two together to learn more about you than you’d like them to know! Again, keep it vague.

Go slow:

Take your time getting to know someone. If someone seems too good to be true, they probably are. With time, you’ll spot any inconsistencies and realize that things don’t quite add up.

Act on your instincts:

If you’re uncomfortable communicating with another member, move on. There’s no need to explain. One of the big advantages of dating online is that you can block other members, making yourself instantly inaccessible, zapping them out of your life!

Report bad apples:

The better online dating services devote money and personnel to quality control but appreciate your help. They have systems in place that make it easy to report members who are spoiling their service for others.

Choose a quality dating site:

Last but not least, choose a well-established, popular site with plenty of members. Popularity is a good indicator that a dating service is doing plenty to keep it’s members happy, including tools and policies that keep you safe online.

Top 10 reasons to Find a Date Online

I’m often surprised by the number of people who are unsure if online dating is right for them. I think online dating is great way for just about anybody to meet new people. Lets take a look at my top ten reasons for dating online.

1. You can meet anyone anywhere

Its easy for you make new friends around the world. You have the opportunity to meet people in different cities, states or provinces, and even countries.

2. Knowledge of the person

You have the opportunity to get to know someone before you even meet them. Being able to have fun conversations with a person online before you head out on that first date saves you from the date from hell.

3. Sexual orientation

This is a huge advantage for some. It can be very difficult to find a date if you have a more unique sexual orientation.

4. Religion

If your Christian you can find others who share the same beliefs as you do. In today’s society that can be very difficult and the Internet makes it easy.

5. Fun services

Maybe your not looking for a long term relationship and just want some fun. This too is made very easy with online dating services.

6. Web Cam and Chat

Some people just want a little show in front of there computer. With a fast connection to the Internet you can have all this and much more. This could be better then going out to the strippers if this is your type of thing.

7. Single Parents

If your a single parent you will find dating online is much easier. Finding other single parents or people who don’t care that you have children makes things ohhhh so easier for you.

8. Its Cheap

Lets face it online dating services aren’t really that expensive. They provide you with a bunch of quality services and a great community of people for you to meet. All of this is done at a low cost and can be done from your home.

9. Find People with the same Interests

Dating services lets your narrow down your criteria of people to find someone that enjoys the same things you do in life.

10. Find the love of your life

Yes this may seem obvious but you really could meet someone that you spend the rest of your life with.

Meeting Your Online Date in Safety

Here are some common sense safety tips for meeting your online date in person. Your instincts will play a strong role in keeping you safe too, so listen to them and take action if you feel uncomfortable or alarmed at any time. Remember, there’s also a good chance that your date is perfectly genuine. Tread a sensible line between optimism and caution and your date will be safe and enjoyable.

Meet when you’re ready:

Don’t be pressured into meeting your online date. One of the big attractions of online dating is that you can find out the important stuff – be sure there’s a real possibility for a relationship – up front, so take your time and make the most of it. Your offline date should confirm and enhance your feelings, not lead to disappointment, or nasty surprises!

Meet in a public place:

Hopefully most of you are yawning at this. However, when you’ve built up some trust online, and happen to share an interest in lonely country walks, say, a lonely country walk might seem like a great idea for a first date. Give yourself a severe reality check when arranging a first date. First dates should always be in well-populated, public places.

Meet in a familiar or well-known area:

You need to be able to find your way home, or back to your hotel room, quickly and easily. Don’t travel into unfamiliar neighborhoods and if you’ve traveled to an unfamiliar city to meet your date, choose a hotel in a central area that’s well known to taxi drivers and locals.

Meet in a place where you’re not well known:

For first dates, avoid favorite hangouts where everyone knows you and your business. Your date can return to pry information out of your favorite bartender or friends, or turn up uninvited – bad news if you decide not to pursue the relationship.

Travel independently:

Revealing where you live, where you’re staying or getting into a strange vehicle puts you at risk. Be sure to make your own way to and from your date, and don’t be persuaded otherwise. If you make your travel arrangements ahead of time, you’ll have a good excuse for refusing any offers to pick you up or drop you home, and if your date’s half the person you think they are, they’ll respect your independence and caution.

Make your own arrangements:

Don’t let your date take over and make all the decisions about where you go, what you do, and, if you’re traveling from another city, where you stay. Make your own travel arrangements (I’ve said this already, but it’s important), book your own hotel, and make sure you and your common sense get to play a big role in deciding when and where your date takes place.

Tell a friend or relative about your date:

Make sure someone knows who you’re meeting (their full name and phone number), when, where and at what time you expect to be back.

Take your cell phone:

If you don’t have a cell phone, borrow one. Arrange for someone to call you at a certain time to check up on how your date is going, and how you’re feeling about it. Agree beforehand on some phrases that will let them know, without giving the game away to your date, whether it’s going well or whether you need to put a pre-arranged escape plan into action.

Don’t drink too much:

Sure, a drink can calm your nerves but be careful not to overdo it and lose your ability to make safe and sensible decisions.

Leave if you feel uncomfortable:

You’re excited about your date, you want it to go well, to give it every chance of success but (and it’s a big but) don’t let this tempt you into ignoring or excusing the fact that something doesn’t feel right. If it doesn’t feel right it probably isn’t. Trust your instincts, admit it and get out of there. If necessary, enlist the help of a waiter or manager or some other person that can help you make a get away, perhaps feigning a call from home or showing you an alternative way out of the building. Remember though, it’s not necessary to explain yourself to your date. Simply leave.